Self-Blame

If you currently have these thoughts, you might be in a state of self-blame. This stage is anger at yourself.

  • “I should have seen this coming.”
  • “Why didn’t I leave when I had a chance?”
  • “I should have gotten my degree long ago.”
  • “I’ll never find another job, my skills are useless.”
  • “Would’ve, Could’ve, Should’ve”

Here are some things that you can do to help move through this stage in your loss:

  • Take care of yourself.
  • Give yourself time off from your job search to do things that energize you (make a list).
  • Volunteer to get outside of your own head and situation.
  • Do quiet job-search activities (write resume, research, look for job leads).
  • Because of low energy and low self-esteem, this is not the time to network.
  • This stage can mirror depression, so if you cannot get out of bed for days or weeks at a time and you cannot find a reason to move forward, talk with a medical professional.

Return to the loss curve to learn more about the other stages.